And then she gets to the real emptiness of NYT writer Kate Taylor's desperately arrived at conclusion:
Instead of continuing to regurgitate the same trope about how hooking up with someone with whom one can’t even stand to have coffee “is so empowering for women” (in the words of one woman profiled in the Times piece), could we all just back up and ask one question: Are serious relationships and marriage incompatible with career?As a career-minded woman who fashioned herself marrying sometime at 30 after a couple years of dating, but instead met The One at 24 and got engaged after five months of dating, married six months later, and was pregnant 11 months after that, I can speak for myself: No. My career took off after getting married, and accelerated even more after having a baby.Think about it. Having emotional support from a committed and lifelong partner, being liberated from the perils and anxieties of the dating world, spending your evenings and weekends with your best friend and love of your life is like constant defibrillation. Bad day at work? You have someone who will always take your call. Nervous before a speech? You have someone to listen to you rehearse over and over again. Just feeling down? You have someone to pop the cork off a bottle of wine and sit down and just listen.Or you could sext or drunk dial your sex buddy?
As I said in my post the other day, I guess these gals have a pretty clear idea of where they want to go in life, but do they have any idea why?
Near many military bases, reputed "victory girls" could be found, willing to engage in sex with military men without charge. Many were younger than 17. Military posters campaigning against venereal disease depicted these "victory girls" as a threat to the Allied military effort -- an example of the old "double standard," blaming the "girls" but not their male partners for the danger.
ReplyDeleteRead more at http://womenshistory.about.com/od/warwwii/a/military.htm
As with every war, where there are military bases, there were also prostitutes. Honolulu's "sporting girls" were an interesting case. After Pearl Harbor, some houses of prostitution -- which were then located near the harbor -- served as temporary hospitals, and many of the "girls" came to wherever they were needed to nurse the injured. Under martial law, 1942-1944, prostitutes enjoyed a fair amount of freedom in the city -- more than they'd had before the war under civilian government.
ReplyDeleteOh, okay. Thanks for clearing that up. Now I see that indiscriminate mink sex is great and that family formation and romantic love are a lot of hooey.
ReplyDeleteI can go back further, much further, especially in situations where there are a lot of, well, randy men and a dearth of willing women, e.g., wartime, which you have reminded us many times here is more the norm than a deviation and have even appeared to call for more of it. Are these men & women humans who bestialized the sex act, automatons who "fit sex in" the way they do workouts or errands like picking up the dry cleaning or getting the oil in their cars changed? Well, yes, and that was from the beginning of the day, not the end. Methinks you need to dump your view that this sort of actually normal behavior is a major cause for our current conundrum, leading us to "lights out" for our society if indeed we are in it as you so continually cry.
ReplyDeleteSo you have no regard for God's commandments about the proper place of sex in human life?
ReplyDeleteMe, I have as much or more Catholic guilt than the next guy. Just sayin' that promiscuity aint nothing you can pin on our supposedly dying society.
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